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Sir Babydum GBE
07-21-2006, 10:07 AM
I've not put this in my own section because for once I'm being serious. It seems I don't have a humorous answer for everything - which is quite sobering.

There is this mother and son that I know very well and are close friends of mine. The father has been ill for years with kidney problems (I don't know the father so well) and both the mother and son have been a rock for him through this period.

In september, the mother, in her 50's was diagnosed with cancer of the oesophagus and has been undergoing treatment for that. About three weeks ago she was told that she would need to take a break from the chemotherapy for 6 months because it had weakened her so much - even though the cancer was spreading.

Two weeks ago, the son took his parents to see Pirates of the Carribean 2, and though the mum was quite poorly they enjoyed it.

On saturday, the mother was rushed into hospital because she was having breathing problems. A few hours later - on the same day - the father was rushed into a different hospital for a kidney transplant. There were some complications and he was in intensive care.

On Wednesday, Gareth, my friend, was told that his mother would not likely live through the weekend. His father was given special release for the day yesterday to effectively say goodbye for the last time - except that the mum doesn't know she is going to die very soon - so he couldn't say goodbye properly.

Only today did I hear that things had got so bad for the mum who is also a good friend.

I cried in work today, and i haven't really stopped all day.

If this message sounds morbid - I'm sorry. I wouldn't want to offend anyone. But there is a lesson in this that I've learned before and always seem to forget:

There is so much more to this life than making money and climbing up ladders - whether they be career, housing, or education ladders. When we are preoccupied with ourselves we can so easily miss opportunities in time that one day we may lose - those of building up friendships and walking through life hand in hand with those friends and others that are dear to us.

lucas
07-21-2006, 10:23 AM
Very nice sentiment Babydum. I couldn't agree more.

shades
07-21-2006, 07:21 PM
As a pastor during the past 20 years, I have seen that happen frequently. Your advice is well-given. Sadly, sometimes we don't have time to "make up for what was lost". And yet, if we begin right now... well, you wrote it so well.

Thanks.

XL-Dennis
07-23-2006, 10:40 AM
Thanks for sharing it and I agree with Your insightful comments what life is really about.

Sadly to say but we tend to get this kind of insight when we have been through situations like You now has done.

Thanks,
Dennis

Sir Babydum GBE
07-25-2006, 03:25 PM
Thanks for your thoughts and comments. My dear friend passed away at 10 pm this evening. She's safe now.

Damian

Ken Puls
07-25-2006, 03:53 PM
Best wishes to the Family, Damian, and hopefully the father pulls through his intensive care. It's going to be a rough time for them for sure...

We've seen something similar happen in my wife's extended family as well. We did not know them well, at all, but I believe the father passed at 32, and mother just passed from Cancer earlier this month. They have left behind a couple of teenagers. Truly tragic...

Again, the best to the family.

Sir Babydum GBE
11-21-2006, 07:32 AM
I know that this isn't really the forum for this sort of discussion, but since I started it and because some have shown concern, then I may as well tell you the father died on Sunday.

He wasn't expected to pull through the surgery initially, but he did eventually start recovering and hopes were high. But he complained that he was feeling ill a few days ago, and died in his sleep in the early hours of Sunday morning.

The family are of course devastated but they're a resilient lot, and like anyone who find themselves in this situation, will eventually pull through.

Ken Puls
11-21-2006, 10:01 AM
Damian,

Please express my condolences to the family. That is very sad news, and I wish them all the strength they can get as they go through the grieving process. Keep your head up as well, buddy, as I know that the family means a lot to you.

Zack Barresse
11-21-2006, 02:27 PM
Thank you for sharing Damian. I'm sure this is still difficult for you. The family sounds wonderful and are truly blessed to have you as a friend.